As I was rummaging through the holy-shit-huge-stack of piles of papers on my table, my eyes are already running wild looking at my friends' facebook profile, which then, immediately zoned into her status vital. "In an open relationship with [insert name]."
That got me thinking. mmm.. How do one define an open relationship? Without any hesitation at all, I typed "Open relationship definition" on my favourite browser, GOOGLE!
Here's what it says :
"An open relationship is a relationship in which the participants are free to have emotional, spiritual and/or physical relationships with other partners, often within mutually agreed limits."Think that's awesome? Here's something that might just knock u straight into comma.
Types of open relationships
- Some relationships place strict restrictions on partners (e.g. polyfidelity); such relationships are polyamorous, but not open.
- Some relationships permit sex outside the primary relationship, but not love (e.g. swinging); such relationships are sexually non-monogamous but not polyamorous or open.
- Some polyamorists do not accept the dichotomies of "in a relationship/not in a relationship" and "partners/not partners"; without these divisions, it is meaningless to class a relationship as 'open' and 'closed'.
- Some polyamorists consider 'polyamory' to be their philosophical orientation — they believe themselves capable and desirous of multiple loves — whereas 'open relationship' is used as a logistical description: that is, it is how their polyamory is expressed or implemented. They would say of themselves, for instance, "I am polyamorous; my primary partner and I have an open relationship (with the following ground rules)...."
-Quoted from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
I have no bloody idea that there's that many types of OPEN RELATIONSHIP? I mean, being in an open relationship is bad enough what more with all those extra rules and all. Look, if you want rules or of such, why even commit yourself into this shit in the first place? =.= Do you think you would not get hurt by entering into such relationship that is free and wild?
Also, as it is, there are already plenty of problems in life, why create more?
See, I might have an answer to this quirky behavior of humans. Me, for instance, am terrified of commitments and being locked down in a relationship for fear of not being able to socialize around and lack of freedom. Wanna know something? That is not the major explanation! no-0oh. It is the
TREPIDATION of actually falling in love with that particular someone and having to break up with him/her. Hence,
DENIAL. We, wonderful creatures, often deny the facts just to avoid of having to answer to the questions that are being build up in your excellent-smart mind. For example, "I think I love him/her. Do I? Because I certainly can't stop myself from smiling at each thought of him popping up in my mind. But
what if he's not serious?
What if we break up later?" and more
what ifs to come. So yea, long story cut short, it's always the fright of losing the one you think MIGHT be the ONE/ perhaps of the ONE you are so sure that you both would end up happily ever after only to find yourself many years later, moping around envying other couples, being so cynicism at life and not giving two fucks about the darn wrinkles forming around the once-gorgeous-smooth face because by then, being beautiful is not relevant anymore.
That utter rubbish, aint it? After much heavy contemplation on this, I realised something really important that many has missed. Life's only ONCE in a lifetime. We should just scratch the "what ifs" from our lives and go on with "lets do it with full speed and properly". So, if u do fall in love with a jerk or a nice guy, you get to learn something really important over there. Life learning experience. =)
xoxo
